Your upcoming marriage in Tennessee is quickly approaching and you have started to spend some time thinking about the prospect of signing a prenuptial with your partner. However, you are concerned that bringing up such a sensitive topic will create tension and ruin the trust you have worked so hard to build with your soon-to-be spouse. At Rogers, Kamm & Shea Attorneys at Law, we have helped many people to articulate and finalize the terms of their prenuptial agreement. 

While you are certainly justified in your concerns about creating a ripple, approaching the topic in the right manner, with the right intentions and in an environment that is both appropriate for the discussion and comfortable, you can increase your chances of having a positive and healthy discussion that is void of heated arguments. According to Business Insider, avoid sugar coating your concerns and be forthright in explaining the fears that you have. Discuss your desire that both of you remain financially secure even if the relationship eventually ends. 

Avoid making demands and leaving no room for your partner to express his or her thoughts. Be willing to listen and listen intently. Be willing to discuss each other’s concerns and maintain a flowing conversation instead of continuously talking without consideration for your partner. Never become angry or defensive and if you feel that the conversation is getting too contentious, ask if you can revisit the topic later on. Even if the conversation ends on a positive note, never expect an immediate answer. Allow your partner to think about your offer and to come to a decision on his or her own time. 

When you are careful and respectful about discussing a prenuptial agreement, your outcome may be much more beneficial than if you bring it up without any preparation. For more information about writing a prenuptial, visit our web page.